Dating expert relationship
Personal experience proves it too: From our eighth-grade romance to our most recent breakup drama, "love isn't easy" is a life lesson we know all too well.No matter your status—single, dating, engaged, or married—relationships take work.For example: 'I get annoyed when I see dishes in the living room.Would you please put them back in the kitchen when you’re finished? Ed., LPC-S, a certified Gottman therapist and master trainer for The Gottman Institute"The number one thing I have learned about love is that it is a trade and a social exchange, not just a feeling.We can 'abandon' ourselves in many areas: emotional (judging or ignoring our feelings), financial (spending irresponsibly), organizational (being late or messy), physical (eating badly, not exercising), relational (creating conflict in a relationship), or spiritual (depending too much on your partner for love).When you decide to learn to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself, you will discover how to create a loving relationship with your partner."— Margaret Paul, Ph.Another secret for a long marriage: partners need to commit to making it work, no matter what.
Many times an issue is brought up by attacking or blaming one’s partner, also known as criticism, and one of the killers of a relationship. Instead of saying, 'You always leave your dishes all over the place! ' try a more gentle approach, focusing on emotional reaction and a positive request.
Many people assume that just because they are OK without things they want so is their partner.
'No relationship is perfect' shouldn't be used as a rationalization for complacency."— Irina Firstein, LCSW, individual and couples therapist"A friend taught me that no matter how in love you are or how long you've been together, it's important to take an exhale from your partnership.
When it is not, then things turn sour, and the relationship ends.
That is why it is important to pay attention to what you and your partner actually do for each other as expressions of love...